est. 2008

5 things I learned from not blogging

Mary Dougherty

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It’s been a while. Actually it feels like forever, but in fact it’s been 5 months since I last blogged. What had become a regular part of my workday for the last eight years was no longer, and in many ways it was a needed break. With two little kids and a lot of change for us personally it became too hard to devote the time to writing and sharing in the same way.

If you have tried to blog, you know that writing does in fact take a lot longer than one might think… but don’t let it stop you.

We have been through so much in the last few months and in many ways our life mirrors this season of spring. It is time to grow and be transformed and leave winter behind (no word on if we will literally be doing that). While I’ll save more personal updates for a later post, here are some of the things I learned from not blogging :

  1. The world doesn’t end. Whenever you step back from social media – in any form – it feels like a major decision. I’m not saying it isn’t a major decision, but all of the negatives we see happening (not being connected, not knowing what’s going on, not getting validated for our posts or contributions) are often positives. The world doesn’t end and in fact you can experience deeper connection with people when you are intentional about your interactions. You are more productive, effective, and live with less self doubt when you are always wondering if validation or connection will come.
  2. Blogging isn’t what it used to be. I still actually enjoy blogging, because I like to write and share with you, but blogs are not what they used to be (and you already knew that). There are so many other ways to connect with people it’s up to you to invest in the platforms that work best for you.
  3. Not blogging did affect my business. Choosing to drop a consistent method of communication did affect my business and the way it reaches people. However, since blogging isn’t what it used to be I don’t think it had as big of an effect as it would have five years ago.
  4. The reason my blog was successful is because it was personal. I know that the majority of my posts are related to the work that I’m doing… but I think the real reason my blog was interesting at all is because it had a lot of me in it. (THIS doesn’t mean it’s the right thing for you, it’s just how blogging worked for me). It has always been a window into my life and it became second nature to open up on it. However, these last few months we went through a lot of challenging things and it wasn’t time to share so I needed to step away to work through them.
  5. Figure out the why. We are made to change, and yet it’s the thing we are most resistant to. Why I started blogging is different from why I blog now. While our motivations may change, being able to ask – and answer – that question will allow us to grow. Don’t do what I am doing, do what you need to do in order to move forward.

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